So Mellie Making sexy eyes with Big Jerry is how she copes with what happened and I have to be ok with it?
Nobody can tell you how to feel but keep in mind that sexual assault victims/survivors all cope with their rape differently; it perpetuates a victim-blaming…
Mellie was flirty with Big Jerry because at the time they wrote that the rape story was not even an insensitive glimmer in the writers’ eyes. This was in no way a genuine attempt to portray the varied, complex and painful ways victims of rape (or other violent crimes) respond. It was sloppy retcon character manipulation that tried to abuse a serious issue for the sake of trying to make Mellie sympathetic. It didn’t work the way they planned and they know it. Compare how they still rave about Seven Fifty-Two to how they barely responded to or discuss the Mellie disaster episode.